Ladies: You are not lost. You are here Women, all men can see the evil in the hearts of other men if we but step out of our own shoes. We all could be the cheater, manipulator, womanizer, or abuser, but when we see our reflection in these men, we see a distorted image and we make a choice to take a different path. The challenge for every woman who has had a bad experience with men is to find a way not to see each man as a distorted image.