Something about the expectations of others The expectations are different, the expectations of others. The problems begin when you make the expectations of others as our own knee-jerk reaction. Trying to please others always has its price, because maybe you will pay. If you are afraid to obsessively that she may no longer be compared to them, if they do not meet his expectations, make yourself at the mercy of others, give others power over themselves. With this kind of thinking you are relocating their control instance to the outside. This is the end of self-responsibility. You are not met in the world to the expectations of others. You should evaluate the expectations of others. She and the others have the right to formulate expectations. But you decide whether you want to meet them.